I realize there are people who could look at that piece of cake and not eat it. And not be tempted by it. I’m not one of those people. I look at that cake, eat that piece and then want the rest of the entire freaking cake. Same for me with alcohol. I have the one glass of wine, then I want the bottle (and sometimes another bottle).
One of my articles was recently published by an online magazine. The one regarding my son and his substance use disorder. Most people were compassionate, sympathetic or empathetic. Then there were the angry people. The self-righteous ones who think people who suffer from addiction are weak. Blisters on society. The ones that said they are costing tax payers too much money. I handled them with grace, I felt, but really just want to vent for a minute.
Science aside (the science that says addiction is a disease and proves the genetic component) how about just compassion? How about the acknowledgement that something is seriously damaged in our society today? We are losing an entire generation and it is terrifying. What is happening that people would rather stay altered as opposed to living in our reality? Is it our constant use of social media? Our instant gratification with online everything? I guess this part is for a different blog.
Here is what I don’t understand. How can anyone look at someone else and just think that they are a waste of space? Whose space? Is it not possible that we all bring something to the table?
I opened my FB today and saw that there were 3 overdose deaths in my circle of the world last night. This is not rare since my social media has become focused on recovery. It makes me so relieved that my child made it another day and so sad for the moms and dads and sisters and brothers and children that lost another cherished soul.
This will not change if we still have a large part of society thinking that people with substance use disorders don’t deserve their help. This will not change if people think it is weak vs. strong. Just don’t use? You can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube.
I am truly grateful for those that reached out and offered support and prayers. I added many to my prayer list. Those with hardened hearts. We need to take back our kids. Even if it is one kid at a time. These deaths are unacceptable.
I know I’m all over the place. I guess if being prone to addiction makes me weak, then I am weak. It also helped me find my strength. Does the fact that I struggle to maintain normal mean I am stronger than someone who doesn’t have to fight every day for normal? Or does it mean I am weak? That saying that “everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about” is about having compassion for people and things you might not understand.
So people, stop bullying just because you can. It is more impressive if you say, “hey, I don’t get it, but it must be tough.”