I just finished 13 Reasons Why and I realize there is a lot of controversy over the rawness of this series. But, guess what? High school experiences really can be the way Hannah described.
I was in 9th grade when the mob girls turned on me. I remember telling a friend something because I felt guilty. (I made out with a guy that had a girlfriend) I believed our conversation was private. I realized immediately it was a crappy thing to do. But, I was 14, he was a huge crush of mine and he thought I was cute. All it took for this 14-year-old hormonal teen to start kissing back.
I remember it was the last day of school. I walked into girls’ choir and at least 5 of the most popular girls were there waiting for me. They began telling me I was a slut and how horrible I was. They would not stop. Most of what they said wasn’t even true and they weren’t there when it happened. That day went with me the rest of my high school years.
I got lucky. I had friends who did stick by me. I had a sister that was supportive of me even when I did stupid things. I wasn’t a Hannah who just moved to the school and didn’t have real friends yet. I wasn’t a Hannah that had things snowball the way they did for her. But I could see how it could happen. I can also see how the story line with Tyler occurs. There were Tyler’s at my school too. Luckily, if there was a Bryce, he wasn’t in my circle, but I have known plenty of boys/men like him throughout my years.
Kids are mean – but it really does begin at home. When do we start realizing this? If a husband is a bully to his family, his kids will be a bully at school. If a mom is neurotic and a perfectionist, her kids will be unforgiving at school. We really all need to start being nice. Start treating everyone the way we want to be treated all of the time. Not just when we feel like it. It spreads. It spreads either way. Can’t we make the nice spread instead of the hate?